Learn to set health boundaries with ease.
Life is full of stress lately. Your life may have even been full of stress long before the world added a pandemic to your plate.
If you’re feeling pushed to your edge lately, you’re not alone. But you might feel alone as you try to juggle a family, work, household needs, your health—and who knows what else tomorrow might bring―without completely losing your cool.
(Or more likely, you’re already losing your cool. Or burying your feelings at the expense of your well-being. Sound about right?)
This isn’t your ordinary boundary training.
Boundaries begin inside you when you sense a need and make a decision to care for yourself. Boundary Bootcamp is a self-paced course that shows you step-by-step how to reclaim the areas of your life that you want more of, even when that feels impossible.
This isn’t your ordinary boundary training. It’s not about taking drastic actions and ejecting people from your life. It’s not about creating your “perfect day” and living a life of butterflies and rainbows. (Reality check: You’ll only feel worse when you can never quite achieve “perfect.”)
We do boundaries differently here at Circle Up. We begin by deliberately creating awareness of our internal pressures, which we learn to do by observing the natural world.
Everything! Over the past century, we humans have become out of touch with our natural rhythms. This separation has resulted in a complete upheaval of the inter-dependent nature of our communities and families.
Along the way, we’ve lost our ability to communicate our needs and to accurately read the needs of others. We’re no longer attuned to one another.
It’s no wonder we’re feeling at the end of our rope. We weren’t designed to “do it all” ourselves.
No longer feeling guilty when you ask for what you need
Being okay with saying no even when it’s uncomfortable
Expressing hardships and needs with a sense of ease
Being respected by the people who matter most to you
Reading your family’s needs gracefully and responding appropriately
Designing your life to fit you, and not the other way around
Taking care of yourself first, without hesitation
Establishing a comfortable pace for yourself
Creating space to communicate freely
Connecting with your natural instincts
There is usually a pattern that leads to overwhelm and burnout. We call it the “doormat-to-dictator” pattern. It wreaks havoc on our relationships at home and at work.
You might be a people-pleaser. Or you tend to avoid conflict. Or maybe you’re a perfectionist who wants everything just so.
You end up doing EVERYTHING. (Okay, not everything. But it sure feels like everything.) You put your needs last because, well, there just isn’t any time for that. You’ll get to it later. Yet later never comes.
You start getting irritable. Especially when things are EXTRA stressful. (2020 anyone?)
You sigh. You nag. You yell.
Your family members mostly ignore your requests and roll their eyes. Or they flee the scene when you reach a boiling point and turn into a sharp-tongued dictator (which gets you nowhere).
You’ve lived like this for a while. In fact, this is part of your life story. It shows up in friendships. At work. You’ve been catering to others for a long, long time.
You know that something’s gotta give. You can’t keep doing life this way. But you might not know what needs to change. Or how to actually make it happen.
That’s why we created Boundary Bootcamp.
Learning to set boundaries is a basic life skill. Yet most of us were never taught how.
In this self-paced immersion into healthy boundary-setting, Beth Anstandig will guide you through the exact steps to identify and communicate your needs with confidence and in a way that honors your relationships.
You’ll move through the course at your own pace, utilizing various means to immerse yourself in this work. The following are some of the ways you’ll learn:
“The steps we learned work. They work in all situations, and that gave me more confidence to try things because I knew that I had a way to work through failures and upsets. I feel stronger, braver, more competent, and comfortable in my life.”MariaElena
“I have to say, the last couple of days I’ve been slowing way down and waiting before I speak. If I feel annoyed or frustrated, I take a walk to the animals. I’m trying to spend more quiet time in my garden too. I’m feeling more relaxed.”Boundary Bootcamp Member
“I have struggled with setting boundaries throughout my nearly 50 years on earth! Beth’s humor, compassion, and willingness to be vulnerable by using herself as an example helped me see what setting boundaries looks like in daily practice.”Katie
“I already feel I value myself more and have consideration for myself as I recognize my needs and express them in business interactions.”Boundary Bootcamp Member
“I joined Boundary Bootcamp after many years of wanting to have better boundaries, yet having trouble recognizing when to set them and feeling blocked to set them. The boundary course has helped me to make great strides forward.”Jamie
The more you practice this boundary work, the easier and more natural it becomes. But the truth is, it takes a while for adults to change behaviors. And even then, you have to consciously check in with yourself to make sure you are committing to living in accordance with your values.
We get it.
That's why we created the Boundary Bootcamp Facebook group where you can ask questions and share experiences.
What would it feel like to respond to life’s current craziness with calm and resilience rather than nagging, yelling, and putting yourself last?
We are changing the way we feel inside Boundary Bootcamp because we are changing the way we do things. Join us?
Boundaries are the interpersonal communications that express our needs and preferences so that others can learn who we are and how to relate to us. We use boundaries in our relationships so we can teach others about us and how we want to be treated. Boundaries are fundamental to building trust.
Boundaries got a bad name along the way. For most people, boundaries sound like a firm no, or look like estrangement in relationships. We talk about boundaries as if it means we draw a line in the sand one day and everything changes. But the practice of boundaries is far more nuanced than that.
Yes! In fact, setting healthy boundaries is really about shaping relationships. Boundary Bootcamp will give you specific strategies and language to use in order to shift how you understand and communicate your needs with the people in your life. This course is meant to be an immersion in boundary-setting, not simply learning about boundary-setting.
Setting healthy boundaries at work will help you prioritize what’s most important to you so that you can do your best work. Learn how to communicate your needs respectfully and with confidence, so that you’re no longer feeling unheard or taken advantage of. At home, you’ll learn how to check in with family members to give and receive feedback so that you’re all on the same page when it comes to each other’s needs.